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Yes or No?

Do you like me? Circle one!

Did you ever get a note like this in school? No middle ground there. Either you mark yes or no.

In the grown up world, there is gray. There is compromise. The best relationships thrive on compromise. You want this. I want that. We meet in the middle. We take turns. We each give a little. My husband and I have been blessed with almost 12 years of practice at compromise. We do it well.

Your turn, my turn, let’s meet in the middle.

Am I always happy? No.
Is he always happy? No.

But we usually are. And we are solid.

That’s why I am at a loss right now. For the first time in our relationship, we have reached a stalemate.

We are on opposite sides of an issue. A big issue. There is no middle ground in this one. There is yes and no. Either answer is huge and possibly life changing. There is no compromise.

Magic 8 Ball?

Rock, Paper, Scissors?

Bubble Gum, Bubble Gum, in a jar?

Have you ever been in a stalemate with your partner? A big one? How did you work through it?

~~~Edited to add: This is not a make or break issue for hubs and I. WE are fine. 🙂 There is just a big decision that needs to be made and we can’t seem to get on the same page.

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{ 2 comments… add one }
  • waning woman August 8, 2011, 6:23 pm

    there are a few big issues on which my husband and I don’t agree. There really is no way to bridge the chasm, but because of our love and respect for one another, we agree to disagree

  • Shanon August 9, 2011, 2:50 pm

    Adam and I were at a stalemate about selling the house for a long time, we both agree it has to go but couldn’t agree on an asking price by over $10K finally we went with the higher number with the agreement to go down $3K every 3 months we go with out an offer until we reach the lower number. There was room for compromise but we didn’t speak for over a week because neither of us were willing to budge.

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